Saturday, July 19, 2014

WHICH TRACK ARE YOU ON?!





"When we are able to  look at our lives and our worlds without fear or judgments, we realize that this dream we are dreaming - reality - can be whatever we want it to be". 

The above mentioned quote is from teachings of Don Miguel Ruiz the author of The Four Agreements who believes that fear is the source of all negative agreements we've made with life. Love is opposite of fear and before we can achieve The Mastery of Love, we must move beyond fear. We can imagine two tracks, one of love and one of fear. By comparing them, we can see which track we are on.

Love

Has no expectations
Has no obligations
Has respect for self and others
Is patient
Does not pity
Is detached
Is kind

Fear

Is filled with expectations
Is full of obligations 
(Acting from obligations brings suffering, and failing to act leads to the feeling of guilt)
Respects nothing even self
(Feeling sorry for self or others means no respect)
Is impatient
Is filled with pity especially self-pity
Is filled with attachments and dreads having to let go
Is too self-absorbed to be kind

Which track are you on?!


#fear #love #DonMiguelRuiz


Thursday, July 17, 2014

LIVING IN AWE






The Concept:

If you look at something without labeling it as good or bad, you will have a sense of awe. This is how the artists feel and how Vincent Van Gogh – a post-impressionist painter felt when he painted the “chair” in 1888. His painting of chair was worth more than twenty five million dollars a few years back and probably more now.




Dictionary defines awe as “an overwhelming feeling of reverence, admiration, fear, etc. produced by that which is grand, sublime, extremely powerful, or the like”.  According to Paul Pearsall, the well-known neurobiologist and positive psychologist, awe is “an overwhelming and bewildering sense of connection with a startling universe that is usually far beyond the narrow band of our consciousness”. He refers to awe as our eleventh emotion, the other emotions being love, fear, sadness, embarrassment, curiosity, pride, enjoyment, despair, guilt, and anger. Research findings indicate that nature and art/music were frequently cited as the eliciting stimulus for positive awe, and the awe response is indeed our maximum state of full and total observation.




Paul Pearsall contends that living an awe-filled life does not mean avoiding pain; awe can be felt in the face of death as well as in watching a birth. Awe makes a difference between languishing and flourishing, by consciously engaging and reflecting on the world outside of the self. He reminds us that "We are all riding around together on one of the universe’s billion fragile, cracking, exploding, rocks, on which even our existence is statistical fluke beyond one in billions. Sucked to our gas-covered rock by an invisible force, we’re being spun around seventeen miles per second while at the same time whizzing at nineteen miles per second around a nuclear exploding fireball that, even though it’s ninety million miles away, holds our rock in its orbit with its invisible force, and, if our rock got too close, could cook us all in a nanosecond”. He asks – are you not in awe? We have indeed allowed our awe response to atrophy from disuse!

Background of unhappiness

According to Eckhart Tolle almost everyone carries in his or her energy field an accumulation of old emotional pain called pain-body. The pain-body is not just our individual pain but also includes the pain suffered by countless humans throughout the history of humanity (the collective psyche of humanity) and it is in every human DNA. Pain bodies like to both inflict and suffer pain. Examples include:

  1. Falling in love or attraction of pain bodies
  2. Media and human addiction to unhappiness
  3. Women's collective pain bodies as they have been killed and suppressed by all cultures and religions
  4. Countries and nations' collective emotional pain
  5. Children's pain bodies which manifest as moodiness and is affected by parents' pain bodies
                   
It is a common wisdom that negative thoughts have lower vibrational frequency and they resonate with and feed our pain bodies. On the other hand the voice of ego constantly disrupts the natural state of our well-being with negativity and superficial labeling of everything and everyone. When we stop doing that the depth comes back to our lives and we can experience the sense of awe. In other words, we should not seek the happiness but the freedom from unhappiness which is the negative interpretation of life situations.

In brief

When we are in a negative state of mind we should remind ourselves that negativity is always ego. Once we are aware of this, our identity will shift from ego to awareness. Being aware is knowing that we are experiencing and applying our full and deepest consciousness to where, with whom, and why we are, and that’s what can inspire profound awe. We can then stop the darkness by bringing in the light of living an awe-filled life.




#Awe  #VanGogh #11thEmotion


Sunday, July 6, 2014

SEVEN BEST WAYS TO COMMUNICATE AND EXPRESS YOURSELF





I usually spoke in a low voice and almost always I was asked to repeat what I had said, forcing me to get out of my comfort zone. I also had developed a sensitivity to people who raised their voices in any situation or under any circumstances. I was really surprised when I learned from a coach that my childhood experiences had something to do with this. 

As a child I felt dominated by the people around me so talking in a low voice became my way of not dominating others. In fact, this was a payoff for me at the cost of my own self-expression. A real eye opener!

One day as part of a communication training program we were asked to go out in the street and interact with complete strangers by establishing a conversation about the topic of our choice. 

For me that was the hardest part of my training and I was feeling extremely inhibited to do the assignment. However, the assignment was successfully carried out and I faced no rejection from the strangers and no difficulties to open a conversation with people whom I did not know at all. Most of all I learned that my fears had no basis and most of the limitations and anxieties I felt were self-imposed.

The training was in relation to self-expression in the context of communication, and I learned that self-expression is an intention and it involves speaking and acting together. The coach told us:
  1. Express yourself in a way that frees the best in others
  2. Speak clearly and loudly
  3. Do not seek anyone’s approval
  4. Be unafraid of being judged by others
  5. Show your emotions and allow yourself to be vulnerable
  6. Don’t care to be always right
  7. Dare to say no, and accept no for an answer

At the end of the training we were asked by the coach to make a new declaration about who we are and he wanted us to be loud and clear and talk with conviction. It was truly an empowering and emotional experience to stand together with others and declare that – we are part of the grand design of life!


#communication #self-expression